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Respected sir/madam.Firstly wishing you all a very Happy & Prosperous NEW YEAR..GOD BLESS U ALL..!!...i have 1st time visited this site..though gone throuugh section related to upsc....respected sir/madam...i am a student of Law n& preparing for civils as well as for my own exams of law..i do put my quantity time in studies but the output whch is there ..i think is not as per i think that it should..& i m not able to concentrate properly for hours...after few mins like 30-45 mins i need to be relaxed for some time..n i go through thoghts like day dreaming...that whether i ll be able to fulfill my dreams or not??which ultimately wates my time a lot....air please help me out and guide me..THANKYOU...!!

-(1/10/2010)

Dear Friend, Thank you very much for your comments. We also wish you the same.
As far as your query is concerned, concentration is the biggest challenge before evryone especially among youth.
You may follow the given steps for more concentration..

1. Don't have the feeling that you should do... like that and not in tension. ...i.e be relaxed.
2. Divide the day for different purposes i.e from getting in the early morning to be ... Get up.... Tea... Study...Newspaper....Breakfast....study...Break....study....Lunch.....Interaction with family members....Study....Small nap....Study....Tea.....Study.....Break ..... study..... chit chat with friends....Dinner.....TV/Radio.....Study like some time table
3. There shoud be a good break between two study period. This is the reaso we have intervals in Schools and colleges
4. The memory power of a person is not same all the time. Every person has his high and low in a day.
5. Do mix some entertainment between some study period.
6. You should not think of peak study immediately, it takes its own time.
7.First the concentration will be there only 5 minute for a person, then by practice it has to be increased.
8. Never think that you should study continuously, OUR brain will NOT concebtrate more than 45-50 minutes as the mental/mind gets fatigue. This has to be corrected by doing some other work.
9. Don't read the same subject contnuosly as study or brain also needs variety
10. Still, it is not working, try to do some Yoga for more focused work.
11. If you really want to understand the same from one of our experts, you can mail us back.

I have been living in a lot of stress and tension lately and on the verge of breaking down thinking about the contraction of HIV. Around 11 months back I paid a girl to have some fun.She seemed very young.After getting into a room she first cleaned my penis with water and herself put a condom on it.She started to give me oral sex. Because it was my first time I didnt go all the way.Didnt have vaginal intercourse or anal.But in the end I fingered her.My finger did feel a bit wet inside her but weather that was vaginal fluid or not I am not sure.And with the same finger i MIGHT have touched the head of my penis or an open wound which was bleeding with the same finger.The wound wasnt very big but was on my penis and i had covered it with cloth to check the bleeding.Although I am pretty sure that I wouldnt hav touhed my open wound ,knowing myself I would have never touched a wound with my finger. But if unknowningly I did touch the open wound or around it with the same finger.There was no other contact of body fluid direct or indirect. What are my chances of contracting HIV by just TOUCHING the wound if she was HIV+.Also I have no clue of her having or not having HIV. Is there any minimum amount of virus required to trasmit HIV.Can HIV survive outside the body for that long. HELP REQUIRED.....Please .....URGENTLY....

-(1/7/2010)

Dear Friend, there is a REMOTE chance only to get the infection. You need not worry about it. If you want to have peace in your mind, you may visit nearby ICTC to check your HIV status. Be happy.

respected sir,i am 20 years old.i am studying 3 rd year.sir i am not get matured.mustache are not grown to me..all my friends are irritating me...plz give any idea

-(12/28/2009)

Normally for few people, it may be delayed. You have to see the case history from your parents side
You can consult aqualified physician in this regard.

i am experiencing erectile dyfunction presently. i think it has developed over a period of 1 to 2 yrs. i am able to get loose erection after masturbation but cnt maintain it. i have used internet to find about it. i am 34 yrs old. i had a very healthy and active physical relation with my wife with whom i am undergoing divorce for last two yrs now. i have also been smoking for last ten yrs now. also i had varicocele operation in 1995. my lifestyle is normally active and i do indulge in exercise often. i have been indulging in masturbation quite regularly, with frequency being 3 to 4 times in a day. however, with this ed i am quite depressed, guide me the cours of action to deal with this problem. i am located in hyderabad,

-(12/27/2009)

Your erectile dysfunction may be due to your drifting relation with your wife also. The masturbation of 3-4 times a day at the age of 34 is really high.
Sexual relations with your wife and other sexual thinking have been disturbing. Cosult a qualifie doctor.

Sir I have read that there are some tests like HIV DUO test which can be done 28 days after the risky exposure. Some sites say that this test is 98.9 percent accurate. There is also another test called DNA PCR which can be done before 90 days of the exposure. Sir, are these tests available in the ICTC centres? Also sir can you please advice how long it takes to get the test report. e.g. I have read that ELISA report will come after 7 days only. Thanking You

-(12/27/2009)

There are rapid test kids also. You can get the result in the some time.

Sir What are the chances of infection if there was no penetration. Only oral sex took place with condom on. The girl put the condom on with her mouth. The penis was inside her mouth two times. One when she put the condom on and next time for about 30 seconds. Is there any risk from huggung in the nude? Pl answer

-(12/27/2009)

There is remote or no chance only in this case.

sir toug am with all my cousins am feeling alone i stay in hostel in kodad plz answer my question sir

-(12/26/2009)

Dear Friend, well you must be haning your friendship circle in the hostel also.
First of all, understand that you are staying at Hostel to get good education. Don't ever think that you are alone. You can have very good friendship circle.
Another thing, you should understand that you can have very good and thick friends from this Institute, they will be best for ever.
Try to have some hobbies like book reading, painting etc
Participate in some extra curricular activities.
Try to visit your home and meet your cousins regularly, that will be beautiful meeting.
Share good moments with your best friends.
You will explore new ideas and thinking and so on. Life will be beutiful, don't ever think you are alone. All the best.

20 days ago , i went to a barber saloon and during shaving i had a minor cut and i'm very sure he used a NEW blade(Sure because i always insist on using a new one and check if it's a new one)...1.Is there any chance that i might get infected with HIV? i got tested after 20 days(for peace of mind) and the result is NON reactive and i'm planning to get tested after 3 months again....2.If there is a potential risk why aren't the awareness campaigns doing enough to educate people about Barber shops.....3.And please tell me about the HIV DUO test ...do i need to get tested exactly after 28 days?Please suggest me a test that gives 100% accurate results after 3 months(even if it is costly because i can't wait for 6 months) and where those advanced tests are done in bangalore NOTE: i don't have any sexual contacts, never shared needles, no blood transfusion etc...REQUEST: please be patient enough to answer the 3 questions because this has a huge pshycological impact on me ...

-(12/22/2009)

Dear Friend, you need not worry about it. By this route, you don't have any chance of getting HIV/ Transmission.
During earlier years, this was also one of the topics used to be discussed in the Campaign. Still it is there, but you might not heard about it.
You need not go for any testing. Just live with Peaceful mind. All the Best.

Dear Sir...refrerring to my previous question (Ashok's quest.)...what is the minimum time I can go for HIV testing? I did the HIV testing on the 5th day after the exposure that comes out Negative (Non-reactive). Pathologist told me to do the test on the 21st day after the exposure. Could you please confirm the same? Thanks..

-(12/22/2009)

Ideal is 3 months to 6 months. It can usually be detected at least 90 days after the contact. Even if you're negative, you have to get one more test in 3 months again.

Dear Sir, My name is Ashok and last week...i went to a prostitute and had oral sex. She took my penis in her mouth for some time and then masterbated by hand. I had put three fingers in her vagina and felt the vaginal fluid on my hand. I dont have any cut on my hand at that time. I am very tensed now reagarding the HIV infection. Please let me know what are the chances of getting infected. Thanks!! I also want to add here that she was not having any cut or bleeding in her mouth. Do you still think i need to go for a test. I am really worried. Pleas help me. Your answer... -(12/17/2009) There is a less chance only. But you might get infected through her mouth also. But it has the remote chance. You can not check the infection now. You have to wait for few weeks as the HIV takes 3 month to 6 month to establish. As your action is really haunting you now, why did you visit the sex worker. Now, you should not worry about it and be bold to face any situation. You have very less and less chance only. BUT one cannot fully leave it blank. But be bold to face any situation, that all.

-(12/20/2009)

Dear Friend, its fine. The naswer is the same for you. Thats what there is a HIV Control Strategy called ABC, A- Abstinance B- Be faithful to single Partner C- Condom use. If you cannot control the urge, use the condom.
I hope that you knew about this issue. Really speaking NO one KNOWS who has what. It is TOO difficult to judge the HIV Status of a person. One has to be careful in life. Thats all. Things will be Alright.

respected,sir my days and nights all r same for me since i had a sex with ses worker in delhi in the march/april 2007,after that i was very normal but i am sub counsiously worried about that night may be i have infected,in mid of december2008 i went to doctor for test , i was advice to go for hiv 1/2 elesa,vdrl,herpes simplex immunology, all the tests shows non reactive but the herpes1/2 came positve, since then i went for many test for hiv ,vdrl at district hospital the last test i undrwent on 12/12/2009 the test shows negative ,but there on penis i developed ulcer,after chronic abdominal pain , sir please advice me what to do i am confused with this herpes 1)do i have the chances for hiv infected though the test shows negitive,sofar.2)why i am expreincing frequent gastreo problem , later ulcers r developing .what r urs suggestion please help in this , i shall be greateful thanks.

-(12/19/2009)

Dear Friend, you need not worry about the HIV as both the occasions, you have been tested negative.
As far as the herbes infection and other problems are concerned, this may be due to some other reason.
it is suggested to consult a qualified doctor.

-(12/17/2009)

There is a less chance only. But you might get infected through her mouth also. But it has the remote chance.
You can not check the infection now. You ahve to wait for few weeks as the HIV takes 3 moths to 6 month to establish.
As your action is really haunting you now, why did you visit the sex worker.
Now, you should not worry about it and be bold to face any situation. You have very less and less chance only. BUT one cannot fully leave it blank.
But be bold to face any situation, that all.

Sir/mam, I m 21 and I have completed my graduation before 7 months and i m jobless.in these 7 months i have gained 20kgs weight and i m sad abt my looks also so i get depressed at times and get irritated on my family members.every now and then i feel as if i m burden on my family and i m very worthless.i want to do something productive but i dont get a source.l feel like running frm the house but cant.please help me i really feel very depressed.

-(12/16/2009)

Dear Friend, One should NEVER think that life is full of flowers and blossoms. It has thorns also. Life is really challenge. It has sorrow and happinees, Ups and Downs, Sweet and bitter etc. BUT it is fantastic.
As far as your query is concerned, You should never feel that to end the life. You have huge opportunity before hand. Open your eyes, you will have beautiful path for you. You should /may do the follwing to keep life going and proper ENJOYMENT
1. Have more friends circle now. Don't be at your closed rooms
2. First thing is to try and meet some qualfied dietician and work on the weight reduction
3. Look for the job and it need not be the best one you are looking. Some job for at least your pocket money, so that you need not look for something from your parents.
4. Have an open discussion with your family members.
5. Every family, kids have some closer relative in the circle. Like that if you have one, discuss your problem and seek for some solution. They can also try for the best.
6. Read good books and newspapers to look for some opportunities
7. Keep busy on some hobby, which you like the most.
8. You never said anything about your feeligs and reaction of the family members. If they are considerate, you can discuss withthem also. If it is not so, follow the point number 5 above.
9. This happens to the girls, where they were free birds when they were in the college, once the college is over they feel that the whole world has come to stand still. This reality, one has to accept it.
10. If your family memberrs can help you, you can think of some master degree also.
11. Always, keep in mind that the life is a BEAUTIFUL Journey, you will enjoy the journey and also help others.
Finally, whenever there is a failure and you are suffering, think of people below you in the social ladder; If you want to achive, look for those people who are ahead of you. This is the way you can make your life happy and Happy going......All the Best

sir, i am masterbaute when seeing beautiful womens, heroines. i take several steps to avoid this but i cant. so pls give any suggestion to avoid this. is this is good or bad in this age? pls reply as soon ,because i am in confusion and it kils me daily in my mind.

-(12/11/2009)

Masturbation is normal among 99 percent of the male population. But it should not disturb you. As long as it is under your control, you will not have a problem. When it exceeds, you have the gulty consciousness. You may do following activities to avoid it.

1. Don't be alone all the time
2. Try to have good friends
3. Have healthy discussion with your friends.
4. Try to concentrate on your studies well
5. have good entertainment, which like the most.
6. Play some out door games
7. Do some Yoga etc
8 Try to read good and health books
9. Avoid sex and sex related books/films which may lead you to go for the masturbation
10. Even you keep on conciously controlling your feelings and sometime if you go beyond the limit or control, Don't keep on worrying about it.
11. have a healthy food and healthy thought and Healthy reading books, which will make you busy.
12. Have a great Ambition in you and work for it with proper planning... Things will move in your direction and you will have much control in your feelings.
All the Best.

respected sir,before some months me&my bestfriend was very close.we were considering our life to each other.but because of some misunderstanding she don't want to see my face now. i can't live without her.i know that she is feeling same as me but she is not telling that to me.from last 8 months she is not talking with me.my life is very affectedd by that.what can i do?sometime i think to end my life but i thinks about my family. i cant concentrate on study. please tell something!

-(12/9/2009)

Dear Friend, this Adolescent age is beutiful one. You don't know really, what is happening in side you.
Normally, boys and girls of this age would like to have friends with the opposit sex or same sex and they will be very possessive about it. What is happening in side you also the same. As the hormonal changes are taking place you could not understand the feelings you have. this is the confused feeling.
Always remember that you are young and you have to do lots of thins in the world. Life is NOT that easy to end. There are so many lifes and creatures are there on the earth. Why, Human being is special.
Whatever you are feeling is temporary, it will NOT last .
You may follow the steps given below:
1. Try to concentrate on your ctudies because thet is your future.
2. This is your life, no one has the conntro on it.
3. Your friend may have some issues, which she can't share with you and the she is an another individual and "She need not havs the same feeling you have"
4. Think of your family and other close relatives.
5. Ask yourself, this life is for your friend OR for you and your parents as they have nurtured you till today and with lots of sacrifice
6. Try to have more friend in the circle.
7. Discuss with them other issues, entertainment
8. have some other entertainment so that you keep busy yourself
9. Try keep busy doing some productive work, have healthy friend in the circle, think of parents and MORE.....

Never Ever think of ending your life, this life is really FANTASTIC one, try to enjoy it.
The feeling you are undergoing is a temporary one, time will heel you, you will meet more people, get more ideas, LIFE WILL MOVE ON........All the Best.

If you wnat to talk to our counsellor, you can mail us at youth.counsellor4u@gmail.com

sir i do self sex many times so i feel very tired now what can i do

-(12/3/2009)

Try to avoid the frequency. TOO much of anything will be a problem. As you are continuously thinking of sex and go for masturbation. This will lead to some problem unless, have some control on it.
Now, try to concentrate on your studies, have some extra curricular activities, try to stay in a group/ Avoid loneliness.

i have had an unprotected sex with a prostitute 11 months ago. recently i have done an hiv antobody test,the result is non reactive? i just want to know that wheather i have any chance of getting infected in the future because of that sexual encounter?

-(12/2/2009)

No.

Sir I had sex with a sex worker couple of months back and I dont know whether she was infected or not. The condom was provided by her . I kept it on all the time during my 1st time sex and I not kissed not touched her . I want a ELSA test now to be sure . I cummed outside her vagina and did not stroke her too . I had it for the 1st time so some blood came out inside the condom I am very afraid what to do now?

-(11/29/2009)

Visit near by ICTC ( Intergrated Counselling &Testing Centres), they will guide you. You need not worry too much on this.
Your visit to the ICTC will be kept as secret.

Sir I had safe sex with a prostitute in March 2009 and used condom all time i ejacualted outside her vagina and condom did not burst off. I had it all the time on me I cummed inside the condom only and removed it before I was cumming keeping the condom on my penis. I want to know that am I affected by HIV or not . Is test benificial for me after 8 months. I want to go for a test now. I have rashes in my back also please help me as I am traumatised.

-(11/29/2009)

Now, you can go for the test to ward off the worries. There is a remote possiblity only get infected in this act unless the condom tear off and the girl had HIV.
As far as your itch is concerned, it may be due to some other infection also. It is advised to consult a skin specialist.

Sir, I deep-fingered a girl for good amount of time say atleast for half an hour,and i suspected that i had a small cut on the finger, to have a peace of mind, after this incident within 12 days i visited ICTC center located at G.T.Hospital, i undergone a testing procedure they used a kit named COMBO-AIDS, and result came NON-REACTIVE ( was my act of fingering a high risk act, do i need testing again? has any person ever got H.I.V.by just fingering a woman? How much amount of fluid is necessary to catch H.I.V.? ). Soon after that, i started getting series of weired thoughts in my mind. could it be possible that by mistake or by chance ICTC worker who takes the blood for testing used "old niddle and syrings used for another patient who by chances turned out H.I.V. Positive?" Has any such case of H.I.V. infection caught during TESTING ever been occured and documented in India? I want to kill these thoughts which have been haunting me since long. DO ICTC people religiously follow the universal testing guidelines? that worker who took my blood did not wear gloves, and after taking blood she press cotton on my bleeding, wht if that cotton was contaminated by small amount of blood of H.I.V. positive person? help me, these thoughts are haunting me. hope u understand my problem. Thank you.

-(11/27/2009)

Dear friend, Well. You need not worry about these things as you said that these are really haunting you.
First feel free and have the confidence in you and others.
Especially, you are doubting the ICTC staff, it is not necessary, they are meticulously following the Universal testing principles. If you feel in this direction, the testing people also at the risk. they will not use the same syringe for two people.
To have the peace of mind, first, Don't doubt people like this. Visit a qulified doctor and give the details about your activities so far and the feeling you have. He will be able to solve the problem.
If you feel that you can not discuss with a qualified doctor, leave all the worries, keeping in the mind that nothing happened. If the similar feelings erupts, better you should visit some counsellor.

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